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08/15/2018 06:17PM   (Thread Older Than 3 Years)
My father passed away Sunday. We have to bury him tomorrow. What a legacy he left with 11 children, 21 grandchildren, 20 great-grandchildren. Almost every single one of them got to see him and hug him and say I love you dad, grandpa and big grandpa. At 6'9 he was a gentle giant. To me he was everything.

To all you dads out there..take time for your daughters. Tell them how wonderful they are. My last words to dad were Thank you ... Thank you for being the best dad I could ever hope for, thank you for teaching me to fish. Thank you for taking me hunting at 9 years old..being patient when I wanted to talk about everything. Explaining why I needed to be silent and still in a way that made me want to be that way for you.

I don't post often, but have been on here for what seems like forever, reading, learning, laughing, grieving with you and your losses.

Thank you for reading about my loss.
~Lisa
 
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ozarkpaddler
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08/15/2018 06:45PM  
Sorry for your loss, sounds like he too was fortunate to have such a loving son?
 
Sandman2009
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08/15/2018 06:55PM  
Lisa,

I am sorry to hear about your loss. It sounds like your Father was a loving, caring, and patient man. It is wonderful that he introduced you to the outdoors at a young age. I hope someday my daughter will feel the same way about me.
 
08/15/2018 07:22PM  
ozarkpaddler: "Sorry for your loss, sounds like he too was fortunate to have such a loving son? "


I'm looking past my sadness and heavy heart and telling myself you just didn't fully read my post and we're not intentionally being mean. :-) I am the 9th of 11 children, the fourth daughter ..but he did have 7 sons.
Thank you
 
ozarkpaddler
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08/15/2018 07:29PM  
BSW: "
ozarkpaddler: "Sorry for your loss, sounds like he too was fortunate to have such a loving son? "



I'm looking past my sadness and heavy heart and telling myself you just didn't fully read my post and we're not intentionally being mean. :-) I am the 9th of 11 children, the fourth daughter ..but he did have 7 sons.
Thank you"


OOPS! My apologies, Lisa!
 
08/15/2018 07:59PM  
sorry for your loss. fathers, mothers, siblings, friends... all hard to lose. prayers for your family.
 
08/15/2018 07:59PM  
Reading your post I'd say your father raised some wonderful kids. God Bless.
 
08/15/2018 08:03PM  
I'm so sorry. I'm praying for you
 
GeoFisher
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08/15/2018 08:16PM  
Man, so so sorry for your loss :( .


 
DrBobDerrig
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08/15/2018 08:38PM  
A great legacy...and a life to be celebrated.
11 kids....that is a workout...pretty easy to get ignored when you are one of the 11

dr bob
 
08/15/2018 10:02PM  
Sorry to hear of your loss. Your loving post was touching.
 
PuffinGin
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08/16/2018 12:08AM  
Sorry for your loss, Lisa. Your dad sounds like a great man. With 11 children he could easily have been too busy to spend time with his kids, teaching them to enjoy nature, fishing, outdoor activities and just kept you all fed and clothed. He was truly a gift to his family to teach about the balance of life. May your memories of special times together, things he taught you be cherished and carried forever in your heart. Sounds like he had a profound effect on you and your entire family and your approach to life. If you feel the need to share more about him, know that many of us here would welcome your stories about him, lessons you learned from him and of your times together.
 
mjmkjun
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08/16/2018 05:25AM  
A touching tribute. Those are some beautiful last words you expressed to your dad. God's Blessings to you all while you go through the healing process of grief.
 
Jackfish
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08/16/2018 07:39AM  
My deepest sympathies to you and your family. Your beautiful post makes me think of my kids, especially my daughters. Hoping that I've been a good dad to them and that they have similar feelings.
 
Savage Voyageur
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08/16/2018 07:56AM  
So sorry for your loss Lisa. From your words he sounded like a great man. I will keep you in my thoughts.
 
08/16/2018 08:39AM  
My thoughts and prayers go out to you and all your family.
 
HowardSprague
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08/16/2018 11:05AM  
Very sorry for your loss. I hope your good memories never fade.

And thank you for the perspective. I often find myself ticked off or griping - or even unenthused - about a bunch of my 10 year old daughter's activities, knocking out plans I may have had,....I appreciate the reminder that one day I'll miss those things. And how important her childhood memories will be.
 
waterdog
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08/16/2018 11:38AM  
Wishing you comfort and joy-filled memories. I am so sorry for your loss.
 
08/16/2018 01:29PM  
So sorry to hear about your loss.
 
yogi59weedr
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08/16/2018 01:45PM  
Lisa,
Rememberthe goodtimes, and he will live forever..
 
treehorn
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08/16/2018 02:10PM  
Jackfish: "My deepest sympathies to you and your family. Your beautiful post makes me think of my kids, especially my daughters. Hoping that I've been a good dad to them and that they have similar feelings."


Exactly my thoughts.

Thanks for the reminder that I need to be good to my daughter (and sons).

If they can say about me what you just said about your dad when I'm gone, I'll call it a successful life.

Take care, my condolences are with you.
 
Thwarted
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08/16/2018 03:42PM  
Very sad for you. I lost my dad in March at the age of 94 and that was too soon. 69 is way too soon to say good bye.
 
08/16/2018 05:10PM  
I think my post doesn't belong here.
It was just an old man's musings.
Never mind.
 
08/16/2018 05:19PM  
So sorry to hear this Lisa! My condolences. Thanks for the reminder and encouragement to all us dads as well. Happy for you that you had one who was a standard bearer for the rest of us. May your memories of him bring light to the dark times.
 
08/16/2018 05:43PM  
Thank you everyone for your kind words. We did it. Made it through the day. Super tough when a two year old Great Grandson keep asking where grandpa's shoe were..they are under the covers (under the lid). "Then shhh...grandpa is sleeping and then bye bye grandpa. Bye grandpa I love you." That's right little one. We all love him.
My mom wrote a note for him and put it in his new fishing license he never got to use. The great - grandkids put a deck of cards in and we all put quarters in the drawer in the coffin so he could play cards in heaven.

We are at peace. I will miss him every day until I see him again. I will wait to feel his presence when the sun sets on the water, when the sun rises through the trees and reaches me in my deer stand and when I listen to loons call. I know he is with me now and always.

Thanks for listening.

~
 
08/16/2018 06:53PM  
He sounds like a wonderful father and person , very sorry for your loss , always difficult losing a parent . Darryll
 
andym
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08/16/2018 11:32PM  
Lisa, I’m so sorry for your loss. Just today I was thinking how much I’d love to have one more talk with my Dad. Or one last chance to go sailing. But I still have the chance to do the things we loved together because of what he taught me. Sounds like you will be doing the same. And I agree with your advice about teaching our daughters all those things. My father-in-law was like that too. And I so appreciate that. He raised a great partner for tripping and the rest of life’s adventures. My wish for you is strength for the days ahead.
 
08/17/2018 10:50AM  
Sorry for your loss. It sounds like you had a wonderful father, and one who has given you much to cherish.

One of my best, but most bittersweet, memories was being able to have one last conversation with my father. Among other things, I thanked him for sharing his love of the outdoors with me. I know he'd love hearing about the trips that I still take.
 
08/17/2018 09:49PM  
No greater gift to a dad than a daughter that shares in his outdoor adventures. You had to have made him pretty happy.
Sorry for your loss... Guy or gal... Dad or mom... Losing a parent is pretty tough. I still think about calling my dad when I'm about to do something or whatever. I suppose I should take his phone number out of my contacts since he's been gone five years.
 
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