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06/09/2020 07:13PM  
With more businesses opening up, and the more relaxed mood among many, I'm wondering how social people are being now? Staying distant and home, going to restaraunts, having none or lots of interactions with people? Having friends over for a beer or three?

I'm generally an introvert to start with, so staying home since mid March hasn't been a big problem- so far. My mother has serious health issues so I don't want to expose her to anything when I stop to drop groceries off. I'm a substitute teacher so I don't have a job to go back to right now. I have a very small circle of friends and have not seen or talked to any of them in ages. I'll get groceries once a week, and do any other errands at the same time (I live 30 minutes from any grocery store). With a huge garden, flower beds, and a young dog, I have plenty to keep me busy.

My husband on the other hand is an extrovert, and has been doing Extremely well considering he usually can't handle being home an entire weekend without doing something with other people. He does have a job where he works both from home and office. But, he is now to the point where he wants to do something with other people.

So. Guess I was wondering if people are back to being social butterflies, or are keeping mostly to themselves ?

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06/09/2020 09:03PM  
Not much has changed here for me and the family since March. We're both working from home and the kids will both be home all summer. The summer programs have been cancelled for the older one and we opted to keep the younger one out of day care since we're home anyways. We did open up our circle to include grandparents who will help with child care for the summer. In order to do that we all had to talk and determine what level of social distancing are we all going to do outside the group so that we're all on the same page. My dad has some underlying health issues that would lead to very bad results if he got sick so we've all agreed to continue with social distancing.

We do go to the grocery store and run other errands but we try to limit it to one trip per week and only one of us goes out. We wear masks and we are diligent about hand washing.

It really hasn't been that hard to keep it up. Both of our jobs won't let us back even if we wanted to and it looks like that will be the case for at least the rest of the summer. The only hard part is not letting the kids play with friends. Thankfully we do have neighbors that share a back fence with us that have 2 kids the same ages as our so all 4 kids will play along the fence for hours. I've set up another temporary fence about 8 feet away from the normal fence to ensure the kids keep some distance but they've been amazing about it. Its really fun to see the crazy things they come up with to entertain themselves. If it weren't for that social outlet for the kids it would be so much harder.

The only break down in social distancing I have planned this summer is a BWCA trip with a friend and we'll both bring our oldest kids. Although when we get back we'll do a 2 week quarantine away from grandparents just to be safe.

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06/10/2020 05:23AM  
We have not changed our habits since mid March. Go for drives, hiking where i see no one, and errands fir groceries, gas, bank, post office, medical, and take out - always with a mask of course. Did see bil and sil once,but declined birthday parties in their family.
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06/10/2020 07:25AM  
About the same since March. My wife has asthma, and we are the main caregivers for her mother, who is 86, so I don't like to expose myself more than necessary, and when I do, I always wear a mask and maintain my distance. Like 4keys, I tend be a introvert, so I'm not too bothered by the isolation, but the wife is having a hard time with it.
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06/10/2020 08:32AM  
We haven’t changed drastically since March but have started to expand just a bit. Our habits as consumers have, if anything, grown more conservative after we realized that making limited trips to buy stuff is easier, saves money, etc. I lost 12 pounds just from eating healthier from available fridge and pantry options. Used to eat out a lot. Now we’ll do take out curbside once a week for the fam. We still wear the masks, always.

We have expanded our quaranteam to include some family and some of my wife’s close friends, and each of the kids has 1 friend they can hang with outdoors only. Fishing, biking, etc. We’re all on the same page and committed to being safe, and most importantly we trust one another to stick to it. All of our gatherings have been in outdoor spaces.

Our biggest cheat was volunteering in the communities impacted by looting and fires. We couldn’t just sit in our safe and cozy house of privilege. Couple days after that my wife started having some symptoms of general pain and soreness, with a fever of 102 and some stomach issues. It passed after 2-3 days. We both got tested and it was negative. My kids and I never had any symptoms. Who knows?

My son and I are headed up the gunflint on Sunday, staying at one of the outfitters and taking day trips. I was canceling if my wife had been positive. We’ll be pretty self-sufficient and stay away from other folks as much as possible. I have confidence the outfitters up there are taking every precaution to keep us safe and we’ll do the same for them.
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06/10/2020 09:13AM  
I'm still not ready to sit down at a restaurant, but I could do an outside seating without any issue. I will for sure stay away from large groupings. Both my wife and I have been working since this whole thing happened so we both have social interaction at work. My business was deemed essential and she works in a hospital. From time to time she has to administer a CAT scan to patients with C-19. Luckily, no one in the medical imaging department has caught the virus. We are probably talking about a department of 50 techs that are right in front of the virus on occasion. I do look at my wife a little sideways if she coughs or sneezes, but I'm not about to go stay in a hotel either. I've gotten used to the risk and studied the data for someone my age. The odds are with me. The good news is that the C-19 patients in the hospital where she works have been reduced to nearly zero. We live in a fairly populous county (330k) that was moderately hit with the virus, but nothing like the collar counties near Chicago or the city itself.

Up until the last couple of weeks we really did not have much social interaction at all. My wife was being responsible due to where she works and I'm an introvert so this really has not bothered me. Any social activity with friends or family has been done outside. Most everything has opened up in northern Illinois and it seems that it's back to business as usual. Having two teenage kids has made the quarantine a challenge. Just recently we have allowed them to start hanging out with select friends.

To answer the question.........I'm not much more socially active, but I wasn't really that social to begin with. With the virus on the downturn I can see myself getting out more and more, but sticking to the advised precautions. Masking up, 6 feet apart, etc.

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06/10/2020 12:11PM  
Outside of one trip per week to get groceries and the random run to Menards/Home Depot or takeout food, I'm not socially active. I've been working from home since March 17th. We've had some family over, but have been outside and have maintained reasonable distance.

I'm 35 and live in the cities and I'm being extra cautious because it feels like the intelligent thing to do right now.

My BWCA group has a trip planned August 5th and all of us come from different family and social situations. All, but me are working in their normal work-environments. I'm weighing the risks of doing a trip.

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06/10/2020 07:57PM  
We're out here south of San Francisco and have been staying very isolated because we did have a lot of cases back in March (we were the first area to shelter in place) and my immune system is a bit compromised from past cancer treatment and a bone marrow transplant.

The only in-person shopping we do is going to the farm stand which is small and breezy. All of our other groceries are done via Instacart. Some are delivery but I do go pick up at our local more natural grocery. The interaction there is very brief. I will probably give up and start going to the hardware store at some point so we can get some home projects done.

We carry masks when we take walks and put them on long before we get within 6' of anyone. We haven't been boating yet but hope to do some paddling soon. We will probably do that on a weekday to avoid weekend crowds that descend on our beach town to cool off. The other day it was 90 near San Francisco Bay, hotter further inland, and 60 at our home on the coast. It is understandable that people want to come and cool off. There are just a lot more of them than there are locals.

Work is easily done from home. We both collaborate with other scientists from all over the country and world. So a lot of our interactions were online anyway. Neither of us do lab work and so we can continue crunching numbers and writing up research at home for a long time.

Socializing so far has been done on zoom. We did run into a friend during one of our walks and spent some time chatting at a distance with masks on and properly aligned so the wind wasn't blowing from one to the other of us (it helps to have a bunch of sailors to notice such things).

There are definitely things we will miss this year but we can deal with it. After my transplant, I had to work at home for 6 months. We could have some visitors and so this year is more isolated. But life is good and I'm willing to do what it takes to have many more years ahead.
06/10/2020 08:41PM  
We, too, haven't really changed much since March. Just a few things. Now that doctors' offices and dentists are opening up, we have had appointments. I had an emergency root canal yesterday, and it was interesting to see the interface that had to take place between the endodontist and my heart surgeon, to get permission, and to manage a course of antibiotics. (I wasn't supposed to have any dental work for at least six months post-surgery and it has been just a bit over four months.)

Spartan1 had a laser ablation on the veins in his leg at his cardiologist's office. Other than that, we are home, or at the lake cottage. Our lake place is on a small private lake about 75 miles from here and we can go without stopping. It is nice to have a change of scenery and we have gone quite a bit since March. It's very peaceful there. But then, I suppose it is peaceful here, too. . .we live out in the country. :-)

I order groceries online, pay online, and pick them up at Kroger's. They put the bags right in the trunk. It's a good system.

Prescriptions are either by mail or drive-thru at the pharmacy. If I do go to a store, I wear a mask and am very careful about sanitizing my hands. Most things that I cannot get at the grocery store are ordered through Amazon, and I am thankful to have that!

Life has changed dramatically. We watched our granddaughter's "Virtual Commencement" and felt bad that there was no ceremony and no party. We canceled our cabin week with said granddaughter at Rockwood Lodge. That was the hardest thing so far.

Our main "social" activity was probably church and I miss it a great deal. Spartan1 misses his volunteer work at U of Michigan Hospital, and takes part in some virtual committees there, but it isn't the same as meeting in person. Our church has an online service, and that isn't the same either.

On the other hand, I am walking every day, increasing my distance and my times, and getting much stronger. I ride the stationary bike. I am SICK of cooking three meals a day and cleaning up after, but we are blessed to be able to get good food and to still be healthy.

We will be 75 this summer, and my husband is high-risk. I suppose I am, too, although I don't feel as much so. . .at least my immune system isn't compromised by a kidney transplant and the resulting medications!

Finally, I try to count my blessings every day. This will pass eventually, and we hope to still be around when things are a bit more normal. In order to make that happen, we have changed a lot of things now. And we are just as impatient as everyone else for "normal."
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06/10/2020 09:56PM  
Spartan2- I am also sick of cooking and the clean up! And we rarely ate out to begin with! I think the difference is now my husband is home for lunch most days and wants more of a meal, whereas if it was just me I'd just grab a sandwich or whatever.
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06/11/2020 07:54AM  
I'm cool with going to grab some takeout from places but I won't just be out and about in stores. Outside activities, yes. Just note though, Arizona and South Carolina are now having their largest spikes of covid after reopening several weeks ago. Remain vigilant.
06/11/2020 09:57AM  
4keys: "I am also sick of cooking and the clean up!

I've joked with my wife that covid must have been designed and set loose by the dish soap companies to boost profits. With the entire family home everyday and requiring 3 meals a day it seems like we never stop washing dishes and cleaning the kitchen.
06/11/2020 03:48PM  
I hope I am not going too far afield here, but when I was a child we lived next to my grandparents. Grandma was a wonderful baker and cook, and I was her little "shadow" in the kitchen starting at about age 3 or 4. She had me making pies by myself by the time I was 6 and she taught me to make homemade noodles, rice pudding, chicken and dumplings, a New England Boiled Dinner, and a zillion kinds of cookies. Her specialties were pies and cookies. I think of her every time I cut some rhubarb, as she used to say "Lynda, go out to the 'pie plant' and get me ____ stalks" (depending upon what she was making.) Her rhubarb pudding--really a cobbler--was so wonderful that I cannot endure a spring without it!

I can remember standing on a stool in her kitchen helping with the washing of the dishes. And enjoying it. That didn't get old until I was about 12, I think. ;-)

So I will turn 75 on July 10th, and I figure I have been cooking for 70 years!! There is a part of me that decided a few years ago that I deserved to eat in a restaurant a couple times a week, or to go on cruises (Oceania) where the food is incomparable. When I say I am tired of cooking, I am not kidding.

I still enjoy cooking a good meal, and especially enjoy baking. But since the pandemic I have been cooking, and cleaning up kitchen (because that goes with it) 'way more than my preference. We are high risk, so we won't be going to any restaurants soon, and I am thankful for carryout.

Ah, well. As well as counting my blessings, I sometimes enjoy a good gripe. It gives me something to complain about. :-)
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06/11/2020 06:59PM  
No major changes here except that I did finally let my son go to his girlfriend's house this week, but their family has continued to stay in like we have. My dad's assisted living place is still "locked up tight", but we did get permission to start visiting because he started hospice services for liver cancer. We are staying home to help avoid exposing his community to anything. Today was the first day I have returned to my school building since March 13, but it was just to drop off robot kits for my virtual robotics camps that start next week. Kids came and did a curbside pickup.

I don't foresee anything changing for us in the near restaurants, no gatherings, staying home except to go paddle or bike. BWCA trip coming up though. We won't be stopping anywhere except the entry point. (Well...maybe Trail Center drive-in food).
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06/12/2020 04:34PM  
nothing new actually. We have been going to the grocery and helping in a food bank since March and getting out to paddle and do some day trips along the coast.

Socially we have gotten together with a few people outside at what looks like a BWCA campsite at our dock. It is easy to stay apart. We pass by neighbors daily on our walk around the block.. They are doing the same walk. Its 3 miles on camp roads.

We have neighbors that like us are mostly retired and not having to commute except for one who is a Fed Ex pilot and gets a CV test before and after each flight.

Everyday errands like to the farmers market are not crowded and outside dining started. We have gone to counties that allow inside dining and eaten inside twice.. Again very few people . Also ridden on some bike paths on weekdays.

We have had no cases of illness in our particular area of six rural towns about 300 square miles. More populated areas 30 miles away have had community spread and also congregate care outbreaks.

Statewide we have had 100 deaths and 2200 people sick.

My neighbor keeps telling me I have to isolate until a vaccine is found as I am "at risk" She has not left her home since March. Maybe good for her. Not for me.
06/13/2020 05:28PM  
Nothing has changed with me, the wifey went back to work as a RN in elective surgery last week she was laid off since mid March. She did her first Covid test on a patient yesterday.
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06/14/2020 05:52AM  
Not a lot has changed for us. I am in construction so I have been working all along. My wife works in a daycare. She was working reduced hours for a few weeks but now is back to full time. We are not social butterflies to begin with so not much difference there.

In early May we took a weekend up on the south shore of lake Superior. A bit later the brother from Minneapolis, the one from Grand Rapids MI, the SIL and I all made the trip to Snowbank for a few days on Disappointment (PR for walleye). This was a week or so after the WI Supreme Court quashed Evers edict. We made our usual stop at the Superior Perkins.

We went out for dinner last Friday (38th anniversary) and the restaurant was pretty full and no areas roped off. On the way home we passed a league softball game in progress in one of the small towns. Garage sales all over the place this weekend.

Our church was one of the first to re-open (2nd Sunday after court ruling). We have a large sanctuary. Chairs were very spread out. Many visitors from other churches that have not opened yet.
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06/14/2020 08:07AM  
Things getting back to normal, ate at restaurants couple of times last week, golfing in three leagues, option to have separate carts But almost everybody doubling up. Still wearing a mask in stores but only because most stores request you wear them. Starting to replan our vacation to France and Ireland in September without the cruise part that they cancelled in April so will have to drive around Ireland rather than cruising around.
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06/15/2020 01:58PM  
Staying home mostly. I grocery shop once every three weeks. Haven't gone out to eat and won't until there's herd immunity or a vaccine. Keeping busy with my arboretum and gardens. Been reading more. Only visit friends in passing, i.e. if they pass me on a walk.
07/07/2020 08:24AM  
I have played more golf then ever, I have almost 70 rounds in already. Don’t go to restaurants or stores much
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07/09/2020 06:14AM  
After getting back from the BW on the 17th of June, the wife demanded a vacation, so we journeyed to the Black Hills from the 22nd to the 27th. While traffic on I-90 seemed unusually light, the Black Hills were packed. The campground we have been going to for 30 years was full. Only time I have ever seen it full like that. We avoided most of the large attractions, except for the Crazy Horse Monument, and we didn't stay there very long, too many people without masks. Got caught in hailstorm/downpour while doing Needles on the 25th, made it to Custer and stopped until the storm ended. I have never seen hail like that, probably 2" on the ground, and some was still there on the 26th. Then we were possibly exposed to the virus from her mother, who was possibly exposed to it from a home care provider while we were gone. So back to quarantine until this coming Monday. So far we have no symptoms, but still staying in except for a grocery store trip.
07/10/2020 03:33PM  
Spartan2: "I will turn 75 on July 10th"

Happy birthday, Spartan2, and many happy returns of the day! Thanks for good camera advice, great trip reports, and the spirit of optimism that shines from all your posts. I hope you're celebrating at the cabin with Spartan1 and your grand-daughter, and that your steady improvement from recent surgery continues.

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07/11/2020 01:32AM  
Bearpath9: "We avoided most of the large attractions, except for the Crazy Horse Monument "

My opinion is that the Crazy Horse monument will never be completed. I've been there 4 times over a period of 7 or 8 years and saw no noticeable progress. If they completed it the funding would dry up...
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07/11/2020 03:42PM  
About like this: XKCD

I’m not really socially isolated though. I probably average 4 hours a week day on video work meetings plus talking to my Mom, zoom sessions with friends, club meetings...

But in person, it is pretty much just the two of us plus the cats.

Our town keeps getting overrun on weekends especially when it is hot inland and everyone comes to the coast to cool off. We had been taking walks past sunset or around dawn to avoid people. But a mountain lion was just spotted a mile from our house and along our usual walk. So I guess the question is which am I more worried about: the virus or an apex predator. I think I’m more comfortable with the mountain lion. It’s been around longer without killing me.
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07/11/2020 03:51PM  
Grandma L, happy birthday and I know what you mean about the cooking. It’s fun but some days we just need to do something easy. It helps that we usually cook enough for 2 or 3 nights but I know not everyone puts up with leftovers. We’re still considering doing some takeout. The cases were declining while people were home more but using takeout and so it is probably safe.

But the dishes. This says it all: New Yorker cartoon
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07/11/2020 08:12PM  
andym: "Grandma L, happy birthday and I know what you mean about the cooking. It’s fun but some days we just need to do something easy. It helps that we usually cook enough for 2 or 3 nights but I know not everyone puts up with leftovers. We’re still considering doing some takeout. The cases were declining while people were home more but using takeout and so it is probably safe.

But the dishes. This says it all: New Yorker cartoon "

Definitely can relate to that cartoon! Especially after my husband cooks. One night it was 4 pots with lids, one sauce pan, and a broiler pan. Tasted really good, but still... The dishes!

We are still not doing anything socially. I'm home doing a lot of weeding, Groceries, talking to mom & the kids on the phone. Husband goes in to the 3 person office occasionally, and golfs league weekly, so that Keeps him sane. Good thing we're packing for our BW trip today, or I might have to take up drinking.
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07/11/2020 09:30PM  
I'm pretty much a hermit anyway so Being socially distant on purpose is a blessing!
Still work 5 days a week in a lab, I have my own room where I do most of my testing but do have work in the main lab. We really try to be distant. Getting tired of masks, skin is irritated.
We just spent a few nights in leclaire Iowa and a nite in lacrosse. Masks were required for most of our activities. The most uncomfortable was the Riverwalk in lacrosse. Enough people and the air was thick and sticky.
I'm stunned to still hear people say this virus is a hoax.

I grocery shop every two weeks and quickly. Our stores seem to be always busy, not enough checkers.
Have probably spent more time at Menards getting supplies for house projects, but a mask is required there.

The most irritating is my local library and their ever changing hours. I've been forced to read our local newspaper cover to cover when I run out of books ( sort of joking, it's a worthless paper)
07/12/2020 10:32AM  
TrailZen: "Spartan2: "I will turn 75 on July 10th"

Happy birthday, Spartan2, and many happy returns of the day! Thanks for good camera advice, great trip reports, and the spirit of optimism that shines from all your posts. I hope you're celebrating at the cabin with Spartan1 and your grand-daughter, and that your steady improvement from recent surgery continues.


Thank you so much. I had a wonderful birthday. We spent July 3-6 at the lake cottage with our granddaughter, then we all came home (where there is AC--it was so HOT!!) for a few days. On my birthday Anna made me a pretty cake, and then our daughter came to help us celebrate. It was great fun! (And someone else did the dishes that evening!) They headed back to the Chicago area on Saturday. It seems quiet here now, but great memories.

75 is daunting mentally, but since my surgery I feel so much better it sometimes is hard to comprehend. I feel about ten years younger than I did last winter!

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