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gymcoachdon
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05/17/2017 08:14PM
So I just ordered a Zaveral Powersurge medium...10.5 oz's.
Any thoughts on how to get out of the doghouse when it shows up in the mail?

I am really excited to take it out for a test spin though!
 
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TomT
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05/18/2017 05:38AM
I would say things like "This will be my Father's Day and Birthday gift for the year". You could throw in Christmas if she gives a hard time.

ozarkpaddler
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05/18/2017 06:25AM
Buy her a nice gift too
05/18/2017 07:01AM
This has worked for me:

1. Have it sent to your work place.
2. If she works make sure you run home over lunch or get home before her.
3. If it is FEdex they can deliver to a facility nearby.
4. If all else fails tell her you got a deal.
5. If that fails don't EVER complain about some of her purchases that you may deam unnecessary

Actually you should just do #5 all the time and you should be fine :)

T
ockycamper
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05/18/2017 07:15AM
tell her you passed on the kevlar canoe and opted to be frugal and just buy a paddle.
TominMpls
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05/18/2017 07:50AM
A wise friend of mine said that an item only has to be in the house for a week before it becomes, "oh, yeah, I got this a while ago, don't you remember?" So you just have to get it into the house and keep it unnoticed for a week.
hooky
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05/18/2017 09:12AM
Ship it to me. I'll keep it in my mini barn and you can come get it when you need to use it.

quote TominMpls: "A wise friend of mine said that an item only has to be in the house for a week before it becomes, "oh, yeah, I got this a while ago, don't you remember?" So you just have to get it into the house and keep it unnoticed for a week."

In a similar vein, a good friend of mine and I made a solemn pact a few years ago. If one of us dies, the other is responsible for telling the surviving spouse the actual value of our stuff. That way nothing gets sold for only what we claimed we paid for it.
A1t2o
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05/18/2017 09:17AM
Get to it first when it comes in the mail and when she finds it you same something like "that old thing?" Make sure you get it dirty as soon as possible. Another option is to lie about the price. Say it was a good deal and you couldn't pass it up. Tell her how much more it should have been.

The last option is to exaggerate how much you need it. Like "Its for my shoulder/back. It helps reduce the strain and keeps me from injuring myself." Reducing medical expenses is a valid reason to buy things in most people's minds.
A1t2o
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05/18/2017 09:24AM
quote hooky: "In a similar vein, a good friend of mine and I made a solemn pact a few years ago. If one of us dies, the other is responsible for telling the surviving spouse the actual value of our stuff. That way nothing gets sold for only what we claimed we paid for it."

LOL We had that conversation on the reef tank forum a while back. People claimed that their worst nightmare is their wives selling their equipment after they die for what they claimed they paid rather than a fair price.
ockycamper
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05/18/2017 09:26AM
Kohl's is the ultimate example of how to handle this situation. Our wives buy something at Kohls and the cashier highlights how much they saved in bold yellow. When they get home they proudly show is the receipt pointing to the highlighted savings.

Proudly point out how much you saved buying it on sale.

Of course if you paid full price you are screwed
gymcoachdon
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05/18/2017 09:37AM
quote ockycamper: "tell her you passed on the kevlar canoe and opted to be frugal and just buy a paddle."
Yeah....that was last year's purchase.
A1t2o
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05/18/2017 10:10AM
quote gymcoachdon: "quote ockycamper: "tell her you passed on the kevlar canoe and opted to be frugal and just buy a paddle."
Yeah....that was last year's purchase."


Then to spread the purchase out, you waited until this year to get the paddle. Just point out that you figured she wouldn't have been happy if you had bought it all at once. Any way you put it you either have to deflect attention so it slows her down possibly even so she forgets about it, or put it in a way that says she should be happy about it. Like you were being nice to her to limit yourself as much as you did, it is for health reasons, or you saved this much getting it. Showing her an alternative that's double the price can help too.
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05/18/2017 11:35AM
Sad you have to lie.
giddyup
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05/18/2017 11:36AM
At my house, when I splurge on an item that is not a necessity, but a "fun" purchase, my spouse will match me dollar for dollar on something he wants, too. (How can I grumble about that?). It greatly curtails my spending because I know everything I spend is going to cost me twice as much.
gymcoachdon
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05/18/2017 11:59AM
quote Guest: "Sad you have to lie."

Sorry you are taking it that way, Guest. I am excited about a purchase, and know I will catch a little grief over it from my wife. I have no intentions of lying to her, and wouldn't have spent the money if I thought it would create real tension between us. I read these responses as humorous, not sad.

And I did get the blem model, so DISCOUNT!
mastertangler
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05/18/2017 12:00PM
All kidding aside honesty is the best policy.........I try not to grumble when she gets something and she doesn't give me a hard time when I get something. Works for us.

The only thing which sort of gets under my skin is having to "ask permission" to make a purchase. Not happening in the MT household.

One evening I sat her down and said "I bought something"..........she looked at me with those big brown eyes and within 5 seconds she said, "you bought a boat". She really is an incredible woman and way better than I deserve........so I bought her a new car. Its all good.

But if you got debt you have to be on the same page and work together so my current philosophy isn't for everyone.
BuckFlicks
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05/18/2017 12:46PM
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BuckFlicks
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05/18/2017 12:46PM
I have a deal with my wife.

We are each free to make whatever purchases we want as long as the cost doesn't exceed $500. If we want to buy something over $500, we discuss it.
05/18/2017 01:39PM
Tell her it was free -- a gift from your mistress.
Grizzlyman
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05/18/2017 02:18PM
"I got a great deal on craigslist!"
dbpmw3
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05/18/2017 03:44PM
Have four granddaughters! She'll be blowing so much money on them she won't think of giving you any grief. She spends way more on them then she ever did our own kids.
gymcoachdon
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05/18/2017 04:06PM
quote 3Ball: "Tell her it was free -- a gift from your mistress.
"

My favorite so far!
My fear is she would start showing me all the things her boyfriend bought for her.
05/18/2017 04:57PM
I'd use the 48 hour rule. Have it delivered a put it in the garage for a couple of days. Don't hide it but don't mention it either. When she does see it you can tell her you've had it for a while and are surprised she hadn't noticed it before. You're not REALLY lying since you have had it for a while.
05/18/2017 05:03PM
Lot's of good suggestions here; some I have used and some I will use!
AdamXChicago
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05/18/2017 05:18PM
Honey, I'm treating myself - besides, it's long overdue...
dbpmw3
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05/18/2017 05:41PM
quote AdamXChicago: "Honey, I'm treating myself - besides, it's long overdue..."W

You've got to be single! Lol
tarnkt
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05/18/2017 05:49PM
Buy a second one and say you want to spend more time together.
05/18/2017 08:18PM
quote gymcoachdon: "quote 3Ball: "Tell her it was free -- a gift from your mistress.
"

My favorite so far!
My fear is she would start showing me all the things her boyfriend bought for her."


Well, maybe he is sportsman.
yogi59weedr
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05/18/2017 08:57PM
Put it under the covers on your bed. Then when you go to bed and she pulls the covers back ,say look honey..... The best part is it comes with 1 months worth of free full body massages.....
ParkerMag
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05/19/2017 05:47AM
My take away here is that you must not have enough paddles if one new one would even be noticed! The "hide in the herd" strategy worked for me with rods, guns, and tools for years with the ex :-)) Fortunately no longer an issue for me and the wife.
gymcoachdon
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05/19/2017 07:24AM
Yep. But that actually works for me here. A friend gave me a nice 21 oz wenonah bent shaft that he got with his prism. He prefers the kayak paddle. When I bought the Magic last year, I got a Grey owl with it. So, this is actually my first paddle purchase.
ozarkpaddler
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05/19/2017 07:58AM
quote gymcoachdon: "Yep. But that actually works for me here. A friend gave me a nice 21 oz wenonah bent shaft that he got with his prism. He prefers the kayak paddle. When I bought the Magic last year, I got a Grey owl with it. So, this is actually my first paddle purchase."

Well, then remind her how much money you SAVED by never having to buy another, then. You break it at the blade, order a new blade, at the shaft, order a new shaft, don't like the handle, replace it. Of course, we bought number one in 2003 and the second in 2004 or 2005? Both are fine, except I need to replace the handle on one due to too much DEET screwing up the plastic handle. Lesson, spring for the carbon or the wood handle, not the cheap plastic one available on the Rec model. And ours do NOT get babied on the water my friends and I paddle in!
MikeinMpls
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05/19/2017 11:37AM
quote hooky: "Ship it to me. I'll keep it in my mini barn and you can come get it when you need to use it.

quote TominMpls: "A wise friend of mine said that an item only has to be in the house for a week before it becomes, "oh, yeah, I got this a while ago, don't you remember?" So you just have to get it into the house and keep it unnoticed for a week."

In a similar vein, a good friend of mine and I made a solemn pact a few years ago. If one of us dies, the other is responsible for telling the surviving spouse the actual value of our stuff. That way nothing gets sold for only what we claimed we paid for it."


That's funny.

Mike
MikeinMpls
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05/19/2017 11:38AM
I totally get the conundrum. You can always make the case that one can never have a light enough paddle....

When it comes to big purchases, I slowly introduce it to my wife a year or two in advance. This is usually for things in excess of $1,000. For example, I'm having a bike built for me (bicycle) that will cost a lot of money (I'm really into biking). I first mentioned it two years ago (two years after I bought my last bike), and she warmed to the idea, or ceded to the imminence and eventuality, I'm not quite sure.

Mike
OldScout48
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05/19/2017 01:01PM
The gear we guys buy has 3 prices: The price we paid, the price we told the wife we paid and the price we pay when the wife find out what we really paid.
gymcoachdon
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05/19/2017 02:38PM
Well, the wife went out for lunch with a friend, I keep looking for the truck, waiting for the doorbell. Eventually she walks in and says, "There is an unusually long package on the porch with your name on it".
Really anticlimactic, she asked if that was what she got me for our anniversary.
05/19/2017 02:58PM
quote TominMpls: "A wise friend of mine said that an item only has to be in the house for a week before it becomes, "oh, yeah, I got this a while ago, don't you remember?" So you just have to get it into the house and keep it unnoticed for a week."
This has worked for me over the years...
05/20/2017 05:38AM
quote Frenchy19: "Lot's of good suggestions here; some I have used and some I will use! "



I knew I'd see you here. Hahahaha!
AdamXChicago
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05/20/2017 10:21AM
quote gymcoachdon: "Well, the wife went out for lunch with a friend, I keep looking for the truck, waiting for the doorbell. Eventually she walks in and says, "There is an unusually long package on the porch with your name on it".
Really anticlimactic, she asked if that was what she got me for our anniversary."

Life is good :-)
Grandma L
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05/20/2017 10:22AM
So, when does the new paddle arrive? We need the update.
I for one say - just be honest.

Heck, yesterday I went and bought a new Garmin-Inreach - so my spouse got a new Nikon. All in less than 6 hours. Easy come - even easier go! Now we both have manual-directions to read. Got to love new toys. But both cost less than the new refrigerator we had to get last week.

Now I am on spending restrictions for - well - many months - maybe Christmas!
05/20/2017 04:42PM
quote nctry: "quote Frenchy19: "Lot's of good suggestions here; some I have used and some I will use! "



I knew I'd see you here. Hahahaha! "


She still gets upset at times remembering that I was not really storing the Swift here for you...! The way I see it? It's a good story!
05/20/2017 04:43PM
quote gymcoachdon: "Well, the wife went out for lunch with a friend, I keep looking for the truck, waiting for the doorbell. Eventually she walks in and says, "There is an unusually long package on the porch with your name on it".
Really anticlimactic, she asked if that was what she got me for our anniversary."


A happy ending; all that "angst" for naught!

I am actually now looking at motorcycles again. Have not had one since 07...not quite sure if any of the suggestions here would work for a Harley...
Grandma L
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05/20/2017 06:16PM
Frenchy 19 - Hope you have good life insurance if you are riding a motorcycle again. The statistics on those things are not good. I have lost a couple of good friends to motorcycle accidents. Like my mom would say, "Are you sure you have a right to be taking those risks? You have kids, you know."
Sorry - sort of off topic.
gymcoachdon
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05/21/2017 10:53AM



A happy ending; all that "angst" for naught!


I am actually now looking at motorcycles again. Have not had one since 07...not quite sure if any of the suggestions here would work for a Harley..."


That reminds me, she actually is very adamant that I can't get a motorcycle, lol. I really don't want one, but if I start talking about it, then I can switch gears, "Well, if I can't get a motorcycle, there is that new..."
 
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